Pregnancy is the blanket excuse for oddity.
You plot punch a lady at Home Depot? Don’t
worry—you’re pregnant. You re-arranged the living room furniture again? You
feel like crying over seeing a pile of dishes in the sink? You’ve become a
narcoleptic? These hormones, too, shall pass.
Oddities aside, this pregnancy I know [better] what to
expect and what I want, and I can actually visualize having a newborn. Last
time, I spent many unconstructive hours imagining my belly growing a tumor. My
first thought when I heard Raeford give his inaugural cry, was “Oh good, you’re
not a tumor.”
So, even though this pregnancy feels more real to me, I seem
less aware of my baby this time. Some things do strike attention: Widget moves
a lot, but not aggressively like Rae did. She’s beginning to notice sounds and
loves to play with her brother. She likes cuddles and seems a curious soul.
With Rae, everything was new about my life—not just the
burgeoning belly. I was just married, my
husband was looking for work, he got a new job, I graduated from BYU, we moved cross-country
a month before Rae’s birth, found a new midwife, and new place to live with new
people. Those, of course, are just the
highlights.
I knew it would work out, but it was hard. Really hard.
God tutors me through my life experiences. The lessons from
this experience I’m still trying to understand. I’m sure He must see something
in it that I don’t yet. Someday I want to understand and feel gratitude for it.
The strain of that experience prompted me to bargain with
God. No more children for a while, okay? Okay, Icie, said God, not for a while.
So, life went on.
Gradually, I started to feel like there was a child that
needed to be part of our family soon. “But I’m not ready,” I reminded the Lord,
and again I felt like He would not send the baby until I was ready.
I remember that moment. Mr. Graff and I were grocery
shopping and all of a sudden I knew that I was ready for another baby. I said a
short, sincere prayer and carried on, thinking that God would wait to send me another
child.
He didn’t.
Now as I think about all the reasons I wanted to delay this
pregnancy, I realize that this plan is much better for me. Things line up nicer
this way. The bishopric can find a new seminary teacher for next year without
rushing. When we move next spring, Widget will be seven months old, and it’ll
be easier to move with a seven month old than a newborn.
And, I’m looking forward to a baby-free 2013.
For now, my most pressing thoughts concern twins. I measured
seven weeks ahead at my last pre-natal check-up. It surprised my midwife, but
not me, I feel huge. We might have heard a second heartbeat. I might have felt
two heads. It’s not conclusive, but seems like a real possibility. It’ll be
more apparent in a few weeks when they’re bigger.
Twins. I’ve had it easy for too long…
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